A place to start will be a point of hurt that I am experiencing and living in and with currently. This last week I decided to call Michael to see how he was doing. I genuinely still care about him and certainly miss his presence in my life. To be blunt, his response both shocked and wounded me more that I would like to admit. He stated calmly and efficiently that he did not know who I was and that I must have the wrong number. Three years of life, love and experience erased with a few simple words. In his world, not only do I not exist, I never existed in the first place. It crushed me. I had saved his life and he was my world. That is all I can about that matter right now.
I spent some time getting coffee and catching up with Bruce yesterday at my favorite coffee shop. He was a bit late arriving but I did not mind as it gave me time to attempt a catch up read on my growing stack of National Geographic magazines. For some odd reason or quirk, I only read them at the Broadway Cafe and as I have not been there in quite some time (last November to be precise) they are beginning to add up. My subscription is a long standing gift that my parents began many years ago and I look forward to it each month. It was so good to talk and listen to him. We never are at a loss for words and no topic is taboo. I admire him for his intellect, education and vast experience in life. He literally knows something, if not a large amount, about everything it seems. While some people can be cowed a bit by his confidence and manner, we have become fast and dear friends. I cannot imagine what he must see in me but I am most happy that we are in each others lives. He always asks me the right questions, no matter how uncomfortable they may be, and is quick to cut through the stories and fabrications I tell myself about my reality. In a phrase, he is a truth sayer. I think me and him are going to catch a movie later this week. His husband Mark might join us as well. I love those guys. :)
Today marks my second day off of work in a row. I had the joy of working fifteen days in a row, so I am very thankful for this break and respite. I woke up a early once again today and am still unsure of how I will be spending it. After spending over four hours with Bruce yesterday, I then joined several of my friends at a local restaurant and had a great lunch and a few drinks. I am a regular there and know the owners and other people that frequent the place as well. It was good to see so many familiar faces and simply enjoy listening and catching up with so many people. My work schedule and patterns had made me a bit of a homebody through this winter I believe. The high point of the afternoon was realizing that a few guys there found me attractive and interesting (though they were a bit shy when I talked to them) while the low point was the arrival of my ex-boyfriend Brian, whose presence can still unsettle me greatly. I made a point to say hello to him politely and to be gracious. That guy still manages to get under my skin and time has not made the chemistry fade. It frustrates me and is maddening!
It looks like it is going to be a clear and sunny day today, though a hard frost arrived over night. I am still in my pj pants and hoodie though I have managed to get some coffee and breakfast inside of me. I have a bag full of books to read, a stack of movies to watch and another whole day to enjoy myself. I may get out and about later. Who knows? I will take it a moment at a time and savor each one. Hope you are well, wherever you are. If you have any ideas on how to cope or handle this situation with Michael or even just a comment or two of observation, please feel free to share. I have never been in a situation like this before and I am not sure exactly what to do. I hate admitting that, but it is true.
PS: I forgot to mention that I am beginning to loathe being single while at the same time do not have the energy or time to devote to a new relationship. I think it is great that guys like me but it is a rather moot point when the attraction isn't mutual or the timing beneficial. I just don't think that I am ready to open up to another guy and share my life right now. I am obviously not emotionally over my last two relationships, or maybe any of them, for that matter. I will not waste a great guys time by not being the best person I can possibly be. I refuse to give less than everything. And I still hate being single. Blah.